Category Archives: confidence
I was once prolific, a nightly blogger, commenter, commentator, participant or stream filler! I’m more of a lurker at the moment, and it’s hard to put a finger on the reason.
There’s heaps going on out in the blogosphere, some of it is even interesting. There’s still debate that rages on in the Recruiting space, the old chestnuts of “Social media = silver bullet” “Twitter is great vs Twitter sucks” “Job Boards are Dead” versus “No we’re not!” “Passive v active candidates” etc etc etc blah blah blah ad infinitum.
So, why aren’t I blogging? Looking through the archives here, it really is sparodic. For the last couple of years really. Probably co-incides with a few core life events. Bub number 3 and now changing jobs twice… that, it seems puts a dampener on things. I have a number of half written posts here, is it the fact that I’m too spent to finish them? Am I not happy with the product I’m producing? Or just the fact that another bright shiny object catches my eye? Am I self conscious because of the vast quantity of posting happening?
Honestly probably a mix of all of the above, the general weariness a new Bub brings to a family, my wife starting a business, a whole heap of focus on 2 new jobs, it really doesn’t leave a lot of mental space for output. That said, this is about to change! I preach (I actually call it evangelising, but we all know the truth) this stuff to people, I am now going to start “Doing as I say”, be warned more content will start coming from this page. Doing makes doing happen, action reinvents itself. I need to get back into this and stir some creative juices, there are ideas I need to have, discussions I need to generate. GAME ON! Minimum one a week! promise (I hope)
Changing jobs a couple of times in the last 2 years has made me really look at myself and my belief structure in this field, refine this, perhaps even formulate one (or two). I’ve come to understand what I believe in, when it comes to Recruiting.
It’s not about just going to work, hiring people and going home. I think people over complicate things to (sometimes) justify their own existence, pad out their “personal brand”, push their agenda or product, or suck up to “Recruiting aficionados”. And please don’t get me started on all those “Social Media is the greatest” conversations!
I’ve been able to break this down to a few key ideals which I believe in when it comes to this profession and what I do.
So what is it?
- Recruitment is all about the conversation (medium is irrelevant)
- Everyone (YES EVERYONE) is hired to solve a business problem
- Fish where they are
- Sharing and learning is essential
It’s official.. I’ve changed my mind.
I used to struggle with the idea of “casual days”. You know those days where you don’t need to suit up in the office, you come in your jeans, or whatever. I’ll be the first to admit, I was brainwashed. I was convinced, and from what I had personally seen, that when you have a casual day in the office, it leads to a real “casual day”. I saw it time and again infiltrate into the psyche of some of my team mates. The edge disappeared, the chats seems to linger over the cubicle, lunches extended out and time on the phone diminished, let’s not talk about client or candidate meetings.
I had a dilemma upon joining Peerlo. The suit was out! and just regular clothes were well… in. (unless meeting clients or candidates face to face). It really threw me, I mean, dressing was easy, a suit everyday, big decisions consisted of which suit, which shirt and which colour tie, and the weekend was the only time I had to think of the rest of my wardrobe. But now, with a good proportion of my work either interstate, or sourcing, I wasn’t always externally facing so to speak. Could I actually work if I was wearing sneakers to work? Seriously? Well over time, (and it has been a year) I’ve grown into it and you know what? I don’t believe it has affected my professionalism. Although now I have more decisions to make and more thoughts to have before I leave the house of a morning. Do I have any meetings scheduled (if not why not?)? are they in person? (in between comes the panic of, “Do I have a shirt ironed?”) and then the big questions come… what to wear today then? Oh lord it gets tough. Lucky I don’t have too many choices, don’t tell my wife I said that 🙂
I’m not sure what it is? Is it a generational thing? Is it a maturity level of the office? Or is it just a changing way of the working life? I have come to learn though, that suits don’t equal professionalism or a measure of work ethic. Maybe I need to get a hoodie like Zuckerberg? Seems to work for him.
This is just a fun post (well for me).
I was going to a meeting the other day and to keep the noise of the kids out of my head (who I was sharing a train carriage with) I had the headphones in just playing some “drown those kids out” type music. I kept those headphones in all the way to my meeting. It gave me an idea….
How cool would it be to enter every meeting with your own entrance music? (insert imagination dream style music here) “and here…… All the way from up the road….Weighing in at …… An undisclosed number (lol)… It’s Peerlo’s own…… Daaaaaaaaannnnnn Nuuuurooooooooooo” You could change it up depending on the tone of the meeting….
I saw a great example on Chuck recently:
(see Chuck.. http://youtu.be/xxBF8gId7Mo)
This is what I would use…..
What would you choose?
The flurry of the morning was compounded by an innocuous little quote in the book I’m reading. Now I won’t quote it directly as it is fiction, and I cannot be bothered finding it again. However, the crux of the quote was that all professionals have a fear that they will be found out as a fraud. That their clients, colleagues or bosses will dig that little deeper and find out that they aren’t as good as they make out.
Powerful stuff… I know I’ve felt like that, and I have a fair sized ego. Even in writing my blog, adding comments to discussions etc, does what I have to say have relevance? Will people even care or comment. Will what I say show me up for the fraud I feel at times. It is always hard to believe I’m supposed to be a grown up now. I’m married and have 2 kids for goodness sake, I’ve been working since I was 16 (coming up to 20 years soon), in my career for the last 12, I mean really, this is ridiculous. I should know what I am on about by now, I should be confident.
Most of the time I do, and I am. Just every now and then, that little cloud of doubt sneaks in and hangs around for a while. It is exacerbated by a number of factors, tiredness, (constant) negative feedback, lack of success, poor morale etc.
The good thing here… I know who can fix it. Simple, just follow these simple steps. (look out Letterman, I’m doing another list!)
1/ Wake up tomorrow
2/ Drag yourself out of bed
3/ Wander into the shower
4/ Finish shower
5/ Towel off
6/ Walk over to sink and mirror
7/ Grab towel
8/ Close you eyes
9/ Use Towel to wipe the mirror clean
10/ Say hello to the person most likely to help